The title that heads this article was a phrase spoken by Pythagoras. He had a privileged position 2400 years ago as a mathematician and philosopher. He influenced Platonic and Aristotelian thoughts and his ideas still mark us today and make us reflect. 24 centuries later, the phrase at the head of this article continues to mark education around the world.
Children are like blank books
Children should be taught behavioral values, respect, justice, equity, equality … they are fundamental values not only to be able to live together in society, but also so that in the future they can have a good behavior towards themselves and towards others. Children at birth are like blank books, and their parents or their legal guardians are the ones who must be in charge of being able to paint correctly on each of their pages.
A five-year-old who insults his mother, gets constantly angry, gets away with it, or is taught in rude ways and spankings will likely have behavior problems in the future. An eight-year-old who yells at his mother because he has not made him a snack and is hungry will likely have behavior problems in the future. A twelve-year-old boy who demands to have certain things and his mother gives them to him just for not arguing, will also have behavior problems in the future … and so the examples can become endless.
The human being is sociable and needs a good example
The human being is a sociable being by nature that needs an example from those in charge in order to evolve and know how to act. If you educate a child by hitting or yelling, in the future he may have serious emotional problems that turn into disorders or even impulsive and criminal behavior problems.
Although when children are young no one can imagine these extremes, the years pass and reality arrives.
Children need rules and limits to respect themselves and others, they will learn to live together in society and to know that they are not more important than the rest. That their desires and their needs, in many occasions must be controlled, whatever they are. Also, they must learn to seek help when they need it, when they feel in danger both physically and emotionally.
Values and norms are not something innate that children know or learn. They internalize them through example, they are transmitted to them through education and that is why it is necessary to say NO to children, establish norms and make them autonomous and self-sufficient … always taking into account their emotional well-being.
Frustration is part of life
Frustration is part of life and it is necessary to understand it so that there are no pathological problems in the future. It is necessary that both men and women from their childhood are educated so as not to have to punish them in their adult life, that they know how to face real life, where the rules do not have to be imposed because they already know and respect them.
In this way they will not end up being aimless adults, because when this happens it is because they did not have an adult by their side when they were children who could serve as a reference to guide their steps … without using fear, if not example and emotional education.